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Opening Destiny Doors Through Relationships by Apostle Joshua Selman

Opening Destiny Doors Through Relationships by Apostle Joshua Selman
‭‭Luke‬ ‭11:5-10‬ ‭(KJV‬‬)
5. And he said unto them, Which of you shall have a friend, and shall go unto him at midnight, and say unto him, Friend, lend me three loaves;
6. For a friend of mine in his journey is come to me, and I have nothing to set before him?…”
“He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: But a companion of fools shall be destroyed.”
‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭13:20‬ ‭(KJV)
Relationships have tremendous power. A man can be foolish at the start of a journey and gain wisdom as a result of relationships.
Destiny fulfillment and advancement is practically impossible without relationships and strategic connections.
Relationships can be bridges to an exceptional life, as well as gateways to a life of pain, regret, and destruction.
When deep spiritual mysteries of relationships are ignored, it is impossible to actualize destiny and make constructive progress in life.
Relationships are high-purchasing-power currencies that can buy both what money can and cannot buy.
Prayer: May you never be so poor, that all you have is money.
The easiest way to succeed in life and destiny is through relationships.
Destinies are enhanced and glorified through relationships.
Money does not solve every problem. For example, it is impossible to buy salvation with money, but a relationship with Jesus gives you free access to salvation.

The Tripartite Dimensions of Destiny Relationships:

1. Your Relationship with God.
Matthew 22:37-40, Proverbs 23:26, 2 Chronicles 15:12-15, Matthew 19:26
“But Jesus beheld them, and said unto them, With men this is impossible; but with God all things are possible.”
‭‭Matthew‬ ‭19:26‬ ‭(KJV‬‬)
Certain things are only possible with God. Entering into an experience of endless possibilities comes from a functional relationship with God.
As a believer, you must be intentional about using everything in and through your life to see that Jesus is glorified.
No one should sustain the ability to take the position of God in your life.
God blesses those who truly love Him, not those who use Him for their own gain.
If you do not love God, do not covet the results of those who genuinely love Him.
The price for accessing and experiencing God is beyond your intellectual ability.
The price for all of God is all of you.
John 17:3
A genuine passion for God is beyond fanaticism and ministerial positions. It is your functional relationship with Him.
Prayer: Lay your hands on your head and repent from any kind of idolatry and pursuit that has taken the place of God in your life.
Pray: Lord, It’s time for my love for material things to go behind the cross. If I rise, let me rise loving you. If I will mark time, let me mark time loving you.
Do not be surprised when you see the benefits of friendship following certain people
“Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends. Ye are my friends, if ye do whatsoever I command you. Henceforth I call you not servants; for the servant knoweth not what his lord doeth: but I have called you friends; for all things that I have heard of my Father I have made known unto you.” John 15:13-15 (KJV)

The Tripartite Dimensions of Destiny Relationships:

2. Your Relationship with Men.
Psalm 8:1-6, Ezekiel 22:30, Psalm 115:16, John 5:1-8
God shows so much passion for man, but men are unaware of what is in them.
Because God originally gave the earth to man, satan and every other spirit rely on men (humans) to function on it.
There is always a man behind every result produced on earth.
Every blessing accessible in the realm of the spirit comes from God, through men, to men on earth. Proverbs 14:28
All hope is never lost when an individual has a man by his side, in addition to the God of heaven. Men are powerful!

Two major reasons men do not maximize relationships:

1. Arrogance
2. Ignorance
In this Kingdom, who hates you does not matter but it matters who loves you.
Men are ladders and men can provide leverage to your life and destiny.
God will always use men for your rising, satan will always use men for your falling and destruction.
Relationships are investments. You must understand the principles of sustainable relationships in order to excel in your life and destiny.
No man will ever outgrow the influence that comes from men; you’re only given the liberty to choose who influences you.


1. Rise above competitive jealousy. (Proverbs 14:30).
You can never rise if you have not mastered the art of avoiding competitive jealousy.
2. Avoid evil speaking/backbiting.
You cannot maintain relationships when you live in a pungent atmosphere of backbiting.
When you understand how to establish and maintain strategic relationships, your life will become so much easier.
3. Practice forgiveness and tolerance.
If you do not practice forgiveness and tolerance, it is impossible to maintain relationships throughout your life.
Tolerating people’s inherent weaknesses is necessary as it will occur again and again.
When you travel with the baggage of hatred and offense, you harm yourself. Tolerance should be practiced because even the best of people have limitations.
4. Be an active contributor to the growth of your relationships.
Relationships do not build themselves, they are built by the parties involved.
Relationships must have a healthy balance between expectations and contributions.
When you have nothing of definite value to offer, allow gratitude to be an expression of your contribution.
Never be a part of a relationship where the focus is solely on you and you are not an active contributor.
Declare: In the name of Jesus, I am a blessing. I declare that kindness begins to work in my life!
5. Master Kindness and Hospitality. 
Kindness = The quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate.
Hospitality = desire to see people happy and see people welcomed.
There can never be kindness without giving.
Beyond receiving, try to give back to those who show you love and care.

The Tripartite Dimensions of Destiny Relationships:

3. Your relationship with things.
1 Timothy 6:17-21, 1 John 2:15-16
‭‭1 John‬ ‭2:15-16‬ ‭(KJV‬‬)
15. Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him.
16. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world.
Without the help of God, you would perish in the midst of plenty, losing your life, character, and integrity.
It is much easier to become successful than it is to stay successful. The key to managing material possessions is to never elevate them above Jesus.
Secrets to Managing Things:
1. Never exalt any material thing above Jesus.
2. Recognize that every blessing God bestows on you is for your benefit and to exalt Jesus.

The Spiritual Cycle of Open Doors in Relationships:

1. Your relationship with God gives you access to wisdom and favor
2. Wisdom and Favor give you access to Men and Systems.
3. Men will give you access to resources and influence.
4. You then use these resources and influence to serve God, bless men, and live a successful life (which allows you to spend more time with God) – the cycle continues.
Pray: Lord, let wisdom and favor come from my relationship with You, and may they grant me access to men and systems.
Pray: In the name of Jesus, I obtain grace to build relationships with men. May men give me access to resources and influence and may the doors of increase open up to me through relationships.
Pray: Lord, I ask for the wisdom to serve You, bless my world, and live a successful life, in the name of Jesus.

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